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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you actually said this to your parents?  Not as an issue of fairness, but simply that you are a little hurt that they're not willing to come see you once a year?  
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OP here.  Yes, I have mentioned it several times.  They either respond with "what will we do at your house?" meaning that they're bored to tears when they're here visiting me (they usually stay for 6 days maximum) but always complain about how bored they are (since seeing me and my husband isn't enough).  They sit around the house because they're exhausted, take naps and watch TV.  However, at the same time they complain that "they don't know my husband at all."  Well, maybe that's because you never come to visit!  Also when I ask them to visit they sat "it's too far."  Never mind the 3 other trips to Europe they've already taken this year.  That doesn't seem to be "too far."  Can you see why I feel upset and resentful about this situation?

Now who knows how this will change/if it will change when they have a grandchild (their first grandchild).  Maybe they won't be so bored at my house.  However, growing up I only saw my grandparents once a year and they seem to think this is "adequate."[/quote]

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