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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.
My son is three, has a good vocabulary in his native language, but just started to learn English, so not much there.
PPs are right, I am sensitive, a first time mom, and a first time group care user. I don't want to switch daycares only because I feel offended over little things.
My son is still adapting, but seems happy there. 
Again, the center itself is great in my opinion, it is this one teacher. 
I did tell her that I agree and will work in the issue with my kid, but I tried to explain why he would even do that. He is not spirited by any means, he is on the shy side and not offensive overall. It is a language issue, I was surprised she suggested otherwise. 
It mirrored the markers situation is that she again implied that I don't instill proper manners in him. [/quote]

Oh my goodness! I feel terrible for Snowflake mom and the precious 3 year old!  He's 3, 3, 3, and three year olds are sometimes loud and rambunctious and if your lucky, spirited.  It was rude of the teacher to imply that you are not teaching your child manners at home because he says no loudly or because he wrote on himself with a marker.  Those are both absolutely normal behaviors for a toddler.  These are behaviors that a good teacher can gently discourage and ultimately change through modeling and communication.  It would be very difficult for me to leave my son in a place where I felt like I had to worry about whether or not  the teacher, his primary caretaker when I was not there, was not nurturing and gentle and kind with him.

These are formative years.  He is learning to trust, or not to trust people other than mom and dad.  He needs to feel acceptance and love even in correction.  My concern is, if the teacher talks to you this way, if her currency is negative, 'You are bad, your kid is too loud.  You must not be teaching him manners at home' versus positive, 'We are working on indoor voices with Billy this week.  Can you help us at home by asking him to use an indoor voice inside?' which is really just a way of belittling someone, then what does she do with the children in her care who have even less of a compass and no real ability to verbalize what is happening around them, to them or to others?

You must follow your gut.  Sometimes a teacher is not a good teacher, either for your kid, and sometimes for any kid.  Find another place where your son will be enjoyed and liked for himself..  You will never get these years back, make these memories happy ones.  There is nothing worse than looking back over your child's school year and wishing you had taken your sweet boy and put him in a classroom where he could blossom.  Trust me I speak from experience,  its better to be safe than sorry.  [/quote]

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