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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have given gifts and received thank yous and not received thank yous, and I dont care either way. I dont give to receive anything in return.  The act of giving is what makes me happy. And that is what I am teaching my own kids.

Giving a gift and then immediately harboring resentment because you dont get something back, and complaining about how rude the person is that you just gave to?  that is just negativity i dont want in my life.

If you get a gift from me, write a note, dont write a note--whatever! Just enjoy my gift.  I've given it to you because I like you and I want to celebrate with you and for you-not because I got an announcement and felt obligated, and not because I am friends with your mother and felt like I 'had" to.[/quote]

+1,000

I couldn't have said it better.  [/quote]

So true!
Why would anyone turn gift giving into a topic all about themselves (and be so upset to post it on DCUM). I'm thinking that's pretty poor etiquette...[/quote]

It's funny, your post has me wondering if I'm giving because I don't want to.  I'm happy to let ty notes go by the wayside, if shelling out big gifts for graduations would go by the wayside.  We give $50 for random kids and $75 for close family friend kids.  We give $100 for family member kids (like random cousins), and nieces and nephews about $400.

We've gotten one thank you in about 10 years.  One distant family didn't give a ty (after $100) and I didn't hear from her for four years until the college announcement, so I sent a note without cash.  Now, we haven't gotten invited to the wedding or gotten announcement for the baby.  And, her mom thinks she is SO divine, compared to her step-sibling, who did write a nice thank you.

My nephew didn't respond in writing, call, or even when we saw him in person the next month.  Finally, about 6 months later, his mom wrote a thank you, as if it was coming from him (but we obviously know her writing).

I'm a tiny bit ticked when we don't get thank yous for bday or holiday gifts, but whatever.  However, graduation seems like you're finally an adult, so it really bugs me.  My mom wouldn't let me use the $1,500 I got in gifts before I wrote notes.  I'm old-fashioned, and stingy, so I would be happy to see the gift of cash fall into history.[/quote]

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