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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It really sounds like you and DH are not enough on the same page to put an offer on a house.  I think you need to take a step back, hire a babysitter, go out somewhere, and have a relaxed conversation or two about what it is you really want.

It sounds like your DH is stuck on something...not sure what that is...but something that is preventing him from thinking rationally (I say expecting your spouse to have a commute that long isn't thinking rationally).  Do some things like writing down your top 3-5 wants in your new home and your 3-5 dealbreakers, and then talk about them.

Or another way to approach it: If you're confident of your budget and basic criteria like # BR/BA, put those into redfin for the whole DC metro area and see where clusters of those houses come up.  Talk about those areas.  Prioritize them based on those wants and dealbreakers you discussed.  You're more likely to get a house there if your price range is common, not rare.

It took us several months to figure out our target area, price, and set of features we really wanted--and then to hone down schools, etc, in the area we chose.  Once we got to the process of bidding, though, we were very much on the same page.  Not that it wasn't stressful or that we didn't argue occasionally, but we agreed on geography and must-haves.[/quote]

We have our specific zipcode identified and I've spent an entire year researching all of the nearby schools.  He's expecting more for his money which ain't happening in this market.[/quote]

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