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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Teach your daughter to say to that woman's daughter, "That was mean. I don't play with mean girls." AND THEN TO WALK AWAY. [/quote]

THIS! It's short and simple (without being mean).

It doesn't matter that you're family "friends". It doesn't matter that she moved to the neighborhood so your daughters can go to school together (who does this anyway?).

What matters is the message YOUR daughter is receiving from YOU when you actively let these people stay in your life. You're teaching her that people don't have to respect her.

Think about what kind of message that is. She's also seeing that you're not standing up for her or yourself. Unacceptable!! She's a doormat in training (under your tutelage).

It's time for some honest discussions and some role playing with DD. Also buy this book and journal for her (http://www.amazon.com/Stand-Yourself-Your-Friends-Bossiness/dp/1593694822) and talk about it together. She needs to know the words to use and what she should expect from those around her- and what to do when she is not treated with respect.

You need to pull on your big girl panties and have a talk with this woman (if you'll constantly see her at social gatherings, school functions, and taking out the trash). It can be calm and respectful but she needs to know that things will change in regard to the time you guys spend together. If it's helpful- write it all down before you talk to her so you get out all that you need to say. Don't put anything in writing to her and don't let it escalate (if she's prone to craziness).

I have not problem politely correcting other children when they're disrespectful to my daughter (5 y/o) but I also talk to her about it after- even if she does correct the rude person. "How did you feel when Larla said X?"  and "If she says something that makes you feel that way again, how do you think you should respond?" The American Girl book I linked above has great info to help girls figure out which method of sticking up for themselves works for them.

Good luck. This woman sounds like an ass.  [/quote]

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