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[quote=Anonymous]OP, as someone who needs some down time too, I get what you mean, but I'd like to offer a little perspective: Take a look at the many posts on here about toxic MILs, interfering MILs, horrid relationships with MILs - and count your blessings that you and she get along, and that your only issue is this one!

Remember, too, that while you don't really understand how anyone can not want the same kind of down time you do -- it's just true that there are people who don't need it and who thrive on a ton of interaction, all the time. It doesn't make them wrong to be that way, just as it doesn't make you wrong to need decompression daily. It's a fundamental personality difference, that's all, and not a major one that can't be dealt with temporarily.

MIL isn't doing this on purpose to deny you down time, but I think you already realize that.

Enlist your husband to spend one on one time with his mother. Enlist MIL to look after the kids while you go out, are alone, "run an errand" that involves a stop for coffee alone, whatever. And when you're with MIL, appreciate her; she won't always be able to travel to you like this.

I have been in the position of being the long-term visitor and I try to escape daily for both my own sake and the sake of the hosts. But I have friends and relatives who would be more like your MIL. Remember -- she is trying to cram in as much time with your family as she can, because she wants to be there and wants to see the grandkids, and that is all good. Enjoy her and the fact that she CAN travel to see you -- my MIL is chronically ill and overseas and I wish she could come and be with us, but it's not ever going to happen again. So...some of us would be glad to have your problem. [/quote]

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