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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OK I'll say it, and maybe I'm out of line. But are you absolutely sure in your heart of hearts that it would be medically dangerous to be lifted on a chair for 30 seconds, if you vetted the chair lifters in advance to make sure they are extra careful?  I'm finding it a little hard to believe you have a genetic condition that is this disabling, yet able to be hidden from even your future in-laws. I don't care if you hora or don't hora, but this sounds a tiny bit like a power play between a controlling bride and her new in-laws. (Yes I get your doctor said not to do it, but I think it all depends on how you presented it to him and whether he felt you wanted him to say it.). Are you allowing any Jewish traditions at your wedding?  Obviously it is important to DH that his family and culture are recognized, and that is no small thing. Being a bridezilla about stuff like this, especially when it comes to blending religions/cultures, can really start things off on a bad foot with your in-laws, which can have long-reaching consequences. If it's truly medically dangerous, obviously don't do it. But then why not just tell that to the in-laws rather than playing this coy game that will be interpreted as disregarding their traditions?  I get the feeling you are only telling part of the story, OP. [/quote]

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