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[quote=Anonymous]My MIL is just like this. She also immigrated here under difficult circumstances, had a bout of early breast cancer, and basically gave up on life 25 years ago. My husband and her daughter have tried to get her therapy repeatedly but it hasn't improved much. She is now so heavily medicated (probably inappropriately so; she is a massive hypochondriac and browbeats doctors so she has prescriptions to last into the next century) that I couldn't let her care for my kids even if she or I wanted that to happen. Luckily she lives across the country so the only real impact for us is the fact that she calls all day long - literally from the time she gets up in CA until she reaches her son (who is so fed up by now that he usually ducks her calls.) It's an absolutely terrible way to live your life, and when we first met I had lots of "helpful" ideas, but I accept now that you can't alter patterns that are this deeply engrained, especially if there are medical conditions (bipolar) associated with them. OP accept her as she is, but never let her care for your child solo. (I wouldn't trust her with her husband as primary caretaker either, if he's anything like my FIL, who is lovely but a massive enabler.)[/quote]
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