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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't really understand her money situation - I know she's retired, but her ex pays her mortgage, healthcare and for vacations.  She takes SS and has a small pension.

Should I try to figure out what the bigger issue is, or should I just ignore it?[/quote]

Why doesn't your DH raise the issue of money with her? It could be in the context of thinking about her future. (E.g. does she plan to stay in her house? Does she have the money to maintain it? What are her wishes if she can't stay in her house?)

It may be that she is loaded but doesn't feel rich. It may be that she is poor and worried about her future. Or any other range of possibilities. At least with a frank conversation, your DH could figure out what's going on with his mom and THEN you'll know how to respond to her repeated comments about money.[/quote]

Thanks for all the comments so far...I've brought this up with DH before and he alluded to the fact that her ex has set her up for rest of her life even after he passes.  I think it's enough to live on (the basics such as housing, health care, etc), but probably not up to the level she has grown accustomed to (vacations twice a year, new cars, etc).   [/quote]

Actually, it sounds like she is totally covered and just pipes up for gifts and attention!  She is much better off than many retired 65yos. [/quote]

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