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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Maybe private school is a stretch, but that's really not the point of my post.  My issue is that my DH is shutting down when it comes time to talking about money.  We carefully planned out private school and we knew how much it would cost and where that money was coming from.  We also knew the sacrifices that we would need to make in order to send both of our kids to private school and we agreed that we would make changes.  In practice, however, for the first time ever, we've had to budget and sometimes there isn't money in the budget to "play."  We knew all of this going into it, and I think that we are very fortunate to be able to have this choice, albeit one that might stretch us a little thin at times.  But all of that is somewhat irrelevant now.  What is done is done.  What I need to do is to figure out a way to get him comfortable with the way things are, and/or to discuss the issues so that if we want/need to make changes we can make those decisions as a family.  And most importantly for him to have some piece of mind.[/quote]

It does sound as if you ought to engage with your DH on whether he's still in favor of the private schools.  It's one thing to anticipate the sacrifices; it's another thing to endure them.  And he may feel like he's the one getting the short end of the stick if he'd be just as happy sending the kids to public school, but feels you and the kids are heavily invested in the schools.

You ought to be able to at least put that on the table.  If he's not prepared to discuss expenditures that leave you cash-strapped, and reaffirm whether he agrees with them, he's not really a grown-up. [/quote]

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