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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. I freely acknowledge that I have changed, in large part because of my frustration with them. I have decided not to be the one to take the full burden of our relationship on my shoulders anymore because I feel that any relationship must be a two-way street. They have responded to my pulling back with the exact same behavior they’ve shown in recent years which is doing a whole lot of nothing. To be clear, they have changed too – prior to my marriage, they definitely called more and were more engaged. Perhaps that changed because they felt they needed to give us space, or whatever, but it has not always been complete silence on their end.

We have talked about it, but after I started pulling back, so their response to me was that I don’t call them either. Argh! They have completely “forgotten” the past decade where it was complete effort only on my part. So frustrating. I think I am just at the point where I am done but I feel bad about it because of course they are my parents and I want them involved in my life. I have just come to the difficult realization that I cannot change them and I cannot force them to be interested or engaged. I guess I thought that a grandchild would help change things because they have always wanted one (and freely told me so). It really isn’t that I feel the need for them to pamper me or overly acknowledge that I am pregnant – I am not looking for that despite what some of you have said. I have a strong support network in my husband and my friends, but that doesn’t replace your parents and simply wanting them to be there in some capacity. I was just hoping this might help change their behavior in a positive way. I am disappointed that it has not because frankly, I expected more from them which I know is not realistic. Doesn’t stop a girl from dreaming!

I think that many of you are exactly right and that I have to adjust my mindset. It is just disappointing and I do feel guilty in not continuing to shoulder 100% of this relationship. 
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