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[quote=Anonymous]Op here. THanks PP. I have met one woman who lost her mom and relates. But she is not in my circle of friends.

I have heard of the meetups too, but there are also full blown conventions!

I do know I feel alone in my specific situation, which has some quirks to it. One is that my mom had that lump in her breast when I was about 5 years old. She kept going to the doctors and they kept saying it was nothing, or that they would monitor it. This went on till I was 12 when finally it was diagnosed. I am now 44 so we are talking about a very different time and way of dealing with breast issues. She died when I was 25.

So its a weird one, to be blunt. It was clearly a slow growing cancer. I do not have an impressive history of breast cancer in my family. Mother was the youngest of four sisters. None had cancer, and neither did her mom. Mom's mom lived to about 80 cancer free. Her oldest sister drowned at 43. Middle two are going strong. They have daughters. None of them, so far, have BC.

My mother had hormones given to her in postwar Germany, where hormone treatment for everything under the sun was all the rage. She went through puberty within weeks. She was about 12 but had been flat chested and not menstruating. By todays standard it is not premature, but it was artificially induced in her case. And god only knows what was in those shots. She had an ear infection, that is all I know. And that is what they gave to treat her.

So while I was lucky to have her in my life till I was 25, there was an underlying issue for 20 total years. It took me a long time to reconcile issues of permanence, truth, medicine, "health", and so on. At 44 I may finally be on top of it. HAd a mammogram today, for example. (see my post under health: My 3D mammogram experience)

I have a lot of male friends through my husband. Not a lot of female friends and none of them have a dead mother. There is one that is a new friend, and her mother died, and yes it was like an instant connection.

Thanks PP and everyone for contributing to this post.

(((hug))))

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