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[quote=Anonymous]I'm really sorry to insult you, OP with the "greedy" comment, but I honestly did get those undercurrents in your posts...so maybe you're not at all, or maybe you are a little bit and you just haven't acknowledged it. I mean, in your first post you said "I'm fine with it" (meaning the girlfriend being there) and then you said in a later post "Just let us all have that week and then the following year invite his girlfriend." With your husband's feelings aside, to me it seems that some of the emotions you bring to the table are linked with you not wanting your vacation plans messed with. And I would definitely feel the way your husband does too...it would bother me to say goodnight to my father each night as he heads to his bedroom with his girlfriend. And who knows how the girlfriend will behave...will she be the subdued, obliging guest who understands her role as neebie in a long-established family tradition or will she choose to assert her new role as girlfriend of the patriarch by being bossy about scheduling and meals and conversation topics, etc. Too many unknowns, in my opinion. Anyway, that is why I would probably take another PP's advice and take this opportunity to change up the family tradition. For me that would mean renting a second house. The kids could still have sleepovers at grandpa's house all week, if you/they want, but your husband would have a place to go outside of his family. Anyway, back to the original question about how to help your husband...i guess what I would do is tell him that you're behind him with whatever he wants to do...and if that means not going on the vacation or renting a second house or grinning and bearing it, then that's what you'll do. [/quote]

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