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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did your MIL die of a long illness?  And was your FIL her primary caregiver (or manager of caregivers coming in and out of the house)?  He may have processed this loss a bit differently than you, especially if you don't live nearby as it sounds like.

We have a close family friend who started dating someone seriously barely six months after his wife died.  His wife had been sick for years, and I think that grueling experience made him ready to embrace joy when he found it.

I'm sure it's rough for your DH, and I agree that having the new woman at the house for a whole week is a bit much, but there may be an aspect of "life is for the living" coming from your FIL, who realizes his own time is limited too.[/quote]

OP here: I think that you are right about FIL looking at things with an eye to how much time he may have (he isn't sick or anything but he is in his 70's). We do live close by and no MIL was not sick for a lengthy period of time. She died suddenly while they were on vacation. But of course I'm sure FIL is processing her loss differently than her kids.

I think it's interesting that another poster mentioned my "greedy desire" for a free vacation. Really? Where in any of my posts have I come across as greedy for a free vacation? I was seeking advice about how to comfort my DH who is having a hard time with the idea of his newly widowed father dating and bringing his girlfriend to the beach. Our kids look forward to spending a week with their cousins. This has nothing to do with being greedy.[/quote]

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