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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Perhaps the beach house tradition should take a year off to allow those who need to grieve for MIL an opportunity to do so. [/quote]

Well, DH's dad secured the house again and paid for it before this relationship got so serious. So we'd all committed before this happened. Of course we could back out, but our kids would be crushed. They especially look forward to spending the week with their grandparents (or now I guess grandparent) and aunts, uncles, and cousins. This is part of why the whole thing is difficult!

I'm not sure what I will tell my children about who this woman is..."Grandpa's friend" I guess and the less the better. We will of course be friendly to her. I do expect my children to bring up their grandma since she was so central to the experience. Sigh. [/quote]

I would still back out. It won't ever be the same for the kids with grandma's passing, so no time like the present to change traditions. Grandpa needs to learn the art of easing into things gracefully, and best case scenario, his new friend is also uncomfortable with idea and will back up the idea of skipping it this year if someone else opens the conversation. [/quote]
+1; OP, I'm sure this is going to sound harsh but to me it seems you are really looking forward to your traditional beach vacation so you don't want to have it screwed up. I think you should suggest renting a house just for your family and making plans with your FIL throughout the week. Don't let a greedy desire to have a free vacation blind you to other options that should be considered here. [/quote]

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