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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother in law is turning 70 and has recently fought some health issues so we are throwing a somewhat big celebration.  We have 5 siblings who are going in on the suprise celebration. I am the main one planning the party and I keep ppl posted as costs acrue to make sure it's ok with everyone, however I am starting to wonder if I am asking too much of ppl.  These are the per sibling costs so far: 70 towards hall rental, 60 towards food, 15 towards gift, 10 towards cake, 15 towards family portrait and 8.50 for matching shirts the grandchildren wore in the portrait. That's roughly 180 per sibling (depending on how many portrait shirts they had to buy) plus the cost of actually attending the party (meaning everyone needs to hire a sitter for their own kids).  3 out of 5 siblings can pay this with NO problem while the other 2 sibs make considerably less.  I am thinking of absorbing the costs for those 2 families myself but I don't know if that's unfair/over stepping boundaries/ perhaps offensive? DH thinks its fine to charge everyone but I am feeling slightly guilty.[/quote]

MIL had 5 kids and the DIL is planning an event at a wine bar for her 70th birthday and having t shirts made up for people to put on grandkids who aren't invited?  This is odd and the gift is $75?  The meal is $30 apiece and the cake is $50.   Where's the hall if it's a wine bar?   MIL is 70 not 25.  At weddings the older folk don't usually hang out at the wine bar post reception.   Have a luncheon at a restaurant in a room where all can bring kids. Why not have an afternoon potluck  bbque where people can relax and bring dishes.[/quote]

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