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[quote=Anonymous]This sounds really awful OP and I'm really sorry.  Your MIL is trying to ruin your marriage. I agree with a lot of the PPs that you need to start saying "no" sometimes.  Let DH see the consequences of always siding with his mother.  In other words when they make plans for Christmas without discussing it with you then you say (to DH privately, not with MIL on the phone), "I'm sorry but you didn't discuss this with me and we need to decide this as a family. If you want to go that's fine but DC and I are staying here/going to see my family etc."

Pick and choose your battles.  Don't complain about everything MIL does only the things that are MAJOR issues for now.

Don't get into fights with MIL, that only makes you look worse (not that you are worse, MIL is 1000x worse but it will make you look better if you take the high road).

I'm not sure if your DH will get it but he needs to understand at some point that his behavior and refusal to ever choose you over his mother could be marriage ending.  If this continues you will start to resent him more and more and I don't see that as a lasting happy marriage.  [/quote]

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