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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The other part that I am glad about is that after one boy I feel we have the boy skills down pat.  We know about baby boys and we have all the toys and the clothes. [b] Frankly, I'm quite glad not to have to buy ridiculous dolls and pink tiaras or princess outfits.  Sure there are some cute girl clothes but I'm glad to have avoided the pink stage[/b].[/quote]

I wish people could explain the joys of having one gender without feeling the need to put down the other.  Not all girls go through a pink stage (and some boys do), or want ridiculous dolls, etc.

Boys are amazing, girls are fantastic, kids in general are pretty wonderful.  Every family experience is different.[/quote]

That's true but I'm still glad I avoided it.  And for the record, I have 7 nieces and every single one of them has been obsessed with pink and princesses.  I am happy that we have boys and don't need to deal with that.  Sorry that makes you defensive![/quote]

PP you quoted here (and my first time responding, just so you realize you're interacting with different people).  I'm not defensive, I was simply stating that I wish people could share the joy of one gender without saying negative things about the other gender.  Does that make me defensive?  Well, I was a little girl once, and I never liked pink or was obsessed with princesses.  I have girls of various in my extended family as well.  Some were into pink and princesses and some weren't.  I've also said similar things when people have posted things like "I love having having girls because boys are too noisy," etc.  As I said, both boys and girls are wonderful.

OP asked what you love about your two little boys--your response was essentially "You already have boy stuff and you don't have to deal with girl shit."

OP, here's my real response to you.  I have two boys, ages 5 and 3 (and a baby girl), and there is really something special about the "brothers" bond.  I love watching them play together and know that this is something special that they will share for their entire lives.  My oldest takes his role very seriously and is always excited to share what he likes with his little brother.  When I was pregnant with my daughter, I can honestly say I would have been happy either way, boy or girl.  I wanted to see what something different would be like, but at the same time I felt that adding another brother would only add to the "brotherly love."  Another great thing about having two boys (and this would probably be the same for two girls) is that it's likely they will have some of the same interests, and can play together safely and happily while you have a chance to get things done!

And here's something else to consider--my DH has a very close relationship to his mother, and from very early on, she has embraced me into the family.  I'm close with my mom, but in many ways I'm even closer to my mother-in-law, and she always refers to me as her daughter.  Just because you don't have a daughter of your own, there's still the potential for you to have an awesome mother-daughter relationship down the road with a future daughter-in-law.[/quote]

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