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Thanks pp and everyone for the support,  I read the comment about the "hallmark of a dysfunctional family" at the end of a long day and it really resonated with me.

Dad came over last night and I got an earful about how wrong my actions were.

My favorite comment was about how my youngest sister would not "have me" after he and his wife died as a result of this decision of mine.  They are 60 in good health.  Not sure how he arrived at that conclusion.  The rest of the night he talked about how he might be divorced by the fall (whats new?) and some of the emotional ramifications of that.  Also shared how they are committed to the new therapist and that stepmom is trying harder than she's ever tried before (I wasn't aware she'd tried before).  However she continues to deny any mental afflictions.

Also got a yelling phone call from my aunt about how she was "shocked" at my actions and some follow up ideas about how the burden is on the child to visit the parents.  So not only can I not cut stepmom out of my life, but I she thinks I am required to take dh and future dc over to the house for periodic visits.  Right.

My baby shower is this weekend and neither sister is going or speaking to me.  I feel sad but resolved that this was the right choice.  I'm not sure what the future holds.  However, In some ways I feel like I traded in my stepmoms s**t and now the rest of the family has taken over where she left off.  I feel like I have to choose dysfunctional misery with them or severely limited contact without them.[/quote]

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