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[quote=Anonymous]Oh, OP, I don't know if you made a bad choice or your previously good choice has deteriorated into a loser.  My DH suffers from anxiety/depression and I can totally sympathize.  I've posted before on this forum about getting to the point where I just couldn't do it anymore.  My DH used to be able to control his depression with medication (it was a long road getting to that point) but when there were some death/illness issues with my ILs, he spiraled into an uncontrolled depression that lasted a couple of years.  He refused to seek an adjustment ot his medication that would help him out of the depression.  We were doing joint counseling and I was individual counseling.  I was so tired and worn out.  I finally got to the point that I had no hope things were going to get better.  I couldn't control or change him.  All I could do was make choices that were  best for me and our kids.  I decided that continuing to live with my DH was not healthly for me or for our kids.  It was a very 'freeing' moment.  I had struggled so hard for so long to make it work but when I finally gave up, all I felt was relief.

I'm afraid that's the direction you're headed - and it's not a bad thing.  You really need to stop thinking about your husband and what's best for you (and your kids if you have them).  The current environemtn isn't acceptable and you deserve better.  If your husband won't do what's needed to improve things then you need to make some changes.

(BTW - you know that depression can be 'caught', right?  Living with a depressed person signficantlly increases your changes of becoming depressed)[/quote]

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