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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op - I am clearly in the minority here, but I agreed with you reprimanding the child. And if my children go to their father's house and did that, I would not be opposed to his wife/wife-to-be correcting them. And, yes, I am the mom on the playground who will tell other people's kids when their behavior is not nice! Not in a mean mommy way, but in a gentle reminder tone.

I think that you and your future husband should agree on these parenting matters. No, it's not your child, but it will be your home and the two of you absolutely must be on the same page. Every child (IMO) needs boundaries and she doesn't get to disrespect her dad because "it's worked fine for them". [/quote]

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Both DH and I come from a culture where children are routinely disciplined by any and all adults in their lives. There's no magic rule that says that only the biological mother and father may discipline, and certainly, when you join the family you are responsible to help that child grow up to be a responsible adult. What is with this American obsession with the nuclear family? Do you people also expect that the grandparents can't discipline? I'm not talking about hitting, but seriously.

And yes, children can be particularly trying at 13, but it does sound like there are deeper issues here. She's getting bad grades and no one seems to be paying attention. This is a very real and long-term problem. The OP is not some cruel and terrible stepmother because she is concerned about this.

OP, if you can't find some way to come to terms with your fiance on this I would encourage you to move on from this relationship. Who knows what he will do when it comes time to be a father to your kids.[/quote]

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