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[quote=jindc][quote=Anonymous]Wow. What do they say? I am sort of waiting for this. My colleagues are wonderful but nosy -- very small office and most people have worked there many years and know each other well. I am the youngest and one of the newest. Some of the older women like to drop by and ask me, loudly and unsubtly, when I plan to have kids. Now that I actually am pregnant (but in the very early weeks), I am just waiting for one to suddenly notice that that time has arrived and proclaim it in a loud voice. They mean well ... [/quote]

well on the one end, there's the old lady who always says things like "when are you gonna be a mom?".  Which was great when I was in the middle of an IVF cycle.  Like you, I'm the youngest and newest in here (civilians, we get new military all the time but they're all male).

The guys do things like comment on women's looks.  We had a pregnant coworker upstairs and one guys who was away for a while goes, "Wow, ____ got fat!"  me: "she's not fat, she's like 7 1/2 months pregnant"  "oh.  Well, she's still really big".  They generally say very sexist and inappropriate things.  Even about their own wives (one guy is like, "I married a younger woman so she could give me a lot of kids" nevermind that the pregnancy they're in now is very difficult and closely monitored).

So it's all very uncomfortable.  I complained to HR a few years ago, but nothing happened.  Apparently I was just being a silly woman!  lol.  And yes, I'm looking for a new job but it's not easy when you're pregnant and have so much leave socked away for just this purpose.

Ok, sorry to hijack![/quote]

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