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[quote=Anonymous]I'm going to give you actual advice since everyone else is so focused on other things.

- You probably need to come to terms with this potentially being a reality. DH is not going to tell his parents they cant move to the city and see him, you or their grandkids. It just wont happen and it isnt fair to expect him to.

- You need to focus on the top 2 or 3 things that really grind your gears and have a sit down with the parents before they move. This will be awkward as hell (trust me I did it) but its necessary. In our case, it was my DW's family who moved here from Utah and they are much wealthier - and conservative - than us. So they spoiled the kids too much and their "I HATE BAMA" rhetoric was a bit uncomfortable around our mostly democratic friends. We sat them down and explained that buying the kids $100 worth of stuff every time they saw them wasn't cool because it wasnt something we could sustain and wasnt what we wanted to teach them. We did the same with 2 or 3 other nits (goddamnit, yes, you need a car seat if you are gonna pick the kids up)

- Recognize its going to be an evolution that will take time. Some things you will NEVER change. Her parents will always be republican and will always hate obama - we will never agree on some of that stuff. Other things like their overspending - we can and have fixed. Decide what battles you will fight and which you wont

- Throwing your DH an ultimatum is an awful idea, it will just put him in the middle and force him to pick between his wife and family and his parents. Dont do that to him. [/quote]

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