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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did anyone asked you to be involved? Because you don't really have a role here. The student should be driving this process himself. If he and his mother disagree he will ultimately have to live with his choices. Having his mother's friend ask strangers on the internet for schools based on the most generic information imaginable (nothing about interests, only information about his record. That's exactly not the way tO look for schools) makes no sense at all. Seriously, what's he going to say? I wanted X school but my mom's friend wanted Y? You just don't belong here and it doesn't even sound like you were invited in. If I were the son I would be really pissed at you for butting in.[/quote]

Wow, PP. It sounded like the mom was stressed out and preoccupied with other things.

This needs to be turned around. Who asked for your assessment of OP's role in the kid's life? Who are you to presume that OP isn't an aunt-like figure in this kid's life? My kids have grownups they trust besides us.[/quote]

Because nothing in OP's posts mentions that she was invited to take this role.  And because nothing she has asked for would help the situation.  They are not at a loss for schools to look at.  The problem is that the son wants a certain kind of school and the mother wants another.  Throwing a bunch of new schools into the hopper won't help.

I am going through the process right now with DC and I can see that OP is just going about this all wrong.  First of, the search does not start with GPA and APs.  The search starts with what are the student's interests?  What size school does he want and in what part of the country?  A student with those stats who is a STEM type would look at very different schools from a humanities type and preppy kid would look at different schools than an artsy kid.

But finally, if you are going through the process you know that OP has no role here.  This is the student's process, with support from parents.  Did the student ask his mom's friend for advice?  I don't think so.  What I see is a mother and son at odds over college choices -- not an unusual situation -- and mom's friend wanting in on the drama.  Or to be more charitable,mom's friend wants to fix the situation when her only role here is to listen to her friend.

We were all applying to colleges once ourselves.  Put yourself in the student's place here.  You and your mom disagree and then her friend comes in with a list of schools to look at that have nothing to do with what you want or are interested in.  HOw would you receive that?[/quote]

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