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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those who lost parents suddenly, I'm really sorry for your losses. This is totally hijacking the thread, but I lost my only sibling 4 months ago, out of NOWHERE (we had lunch the day before!) and I am having a really hard time. I also had a parent die after a long illness and the difference between the two experiences is huge. I still haven't come to terms with the fact that the loss has actually occurred- it doesn't feel real. I keep replaying the events in my head, etc, it's really bad. Anyway, since there seem to be a lot of you on here, I was just wondering if you have any tips or how long it took you to start to get to a good place again?[/quote]

Same happened to me; I lost my brother in my 20's.  I absolutely adored him and he was my big brother and always there for me.  The first year was so hard and even harder because he left behind a wife, 5 yr old, and 18 mos old so you feel like it is really their loss more than  yours and you need to be strong for them.  I missed a lot of work for a few months but my boss was so understanding.  I almost did not date my now DH because I met him only a few months later and I felt like it was wrong to be happy and/ or moving on.  i knew dh was a keeper when he said " take whatever time you need; I am just happy I met you.".

It has been over 15 years but I think of him almost daily.  Certain songs or things happen and I tear up.  He died on good friday so I really hate the easter season and I am always weepy on his birthday.  Watching his kids milestones without him is heart- wrenching even though they grew up very much loved and are happy and successful.  So, the pain of the loss never goes away, but you do move on and are happy again.  A big hug to you.[/quote]

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