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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not want to be friends with someone who judged me because I had a small house. Are there that many people who judge people for having a small house? That's pretty lame. My bigger issue is people who like to split the bill in restaurants. I want to be like "uh, do you think I ordered a garden salad and tap water because that was my top choice?" I order less and pay less. If they want to call me cheap behind my back, so be it. They ain't paying my credit card bill.
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Up to a point.... That type of stuff cuts both ways...

If its a group of 6 people or something and you want to be the one person who says you owe $19 instead of $24, rather than just splitting the bill, I find that pretty irritating... and inevitably they person who does this usually doesnt end up paying their fair share anyway. Rounding a $9.50 garden salad up to $10 isn't going to cover tax and tip. Happens every time. You always end up counting money and somehow you are $40 short and everyone just sort of looks at the floor and says 'I only ate bread' or whatever. So of course someone ends up having to cover the extra $40. I've had people get into how much of the wine they owe because they had 2 glasses and some other couple had 3 glasses. Okay, so now we are going to sit at this fucking table dividing a $22 bottle of wine by the number of glasses people had?

Similarly - and to your point - I find it really irritating when someone orders the most expensive thing on the entire menu - Oh yes sir, I'll have the surf and turf for $64 - and then wants to split the bill evenly. I NEVER pull that shit. If I order a $50 porterhouse steak, I'm going to offer to pay more than the even split because I'm not a total fuckhead. I remember one couple we went out with both ordered surf and turf - then asked us what kind of wine we liked - we said white, they said 'oh we prefer red', and proceeded to a bottle which they drank entirely on their own. The bill came and our total was maybe $60 - there's was more like $180. We split the bill evenly cause I didnt want to be 'that guy', but we've never been out with them again. I'm pretty sure they just invited us as a way to cushion their expense.

Point is, be reasonable on both sides of that equation. 
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I have to agree on this.  We went to PF Changs when it was the new place to eat (we lived in a different city) and DH and I ordered 3 or 4 things for us to share.  Couple with us ordered one thing to share.  It was so awkward.  When the bill came, we made the mistake of covering ours in cash including tax and tip so the other couple simply paid the difference and left a $3 tip.  We wouldn't have known any better if the waiter didn't flag us down as we were leaving asking why he got such a lousy tip so we then paid even more.  Never went out with that couple again more because it was just irritating.

To the OP, I feel ya' on this though.  For us, we have friends that invite our child to classes we simply can't afford and they do like 20 of them.  I just say they conflict or when they are really pricy that it's just not in our budget since we have two kids.  We've still been able to maintain our friendship but she's dripping with money which is one thing we are not![/quote]

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