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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - Thanks for commiserating.

I think I'm having a hard time because I grew up in a house with a SAHM and a father who worked his butt off to make sure we had everything we needed and then some. And I'm now in a house where both parents work full-time and we are doing fine financially but definitely not rich by any stretch. So it feels like I'm not being the mother my mom was or the provider my dad was. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy with my life but am still getting used to the fact that it's not what I grew up with. Know what I mean?

And no, these aren't the only two jobs in the world. My husband keeps reminding me that just because this other job came my way doesn't mean I have to take it (assuming it is offered). So I think for now I'll continue to be grateful for the work situation I'm in and see what comes next. [/quote]

OP we had a similar dynamic in my family growing up and it is so hard to convince yourself it is ok and even healthy to carve out a different path for your own family.

Another thing I've considered is that the world has changed since we were kids and it is no longer possible  orhealthy for many to preserve those old gender roles. The breadwinner is more vulnerable to layoffs, dads often want to spend more time with the kids than in generations past, women today derive a sense of self worth from work outside the home. None of these things are wrong or rught, they just are.

I am in a similar boat career-wise--flexible job thst meets our financial needs but isn't the most challenging. I face the same question--should I look for something else? For now I'm staying put as I really value the ability to spend a significant  amount  of time with DS even as a working mom. I'm staying while my kids are young and will play it by ear after that. I love DC for it's family friendly work environment--lots of govt jobs and nonprofits that are forgiving of maternity leave and work life balance and plenty of women in our situation.[/quote]

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