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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]sorry for not being more clear. if any of you had children of color you would probably understand, but a place where a child of color would feel welcome and not be the only child of color in her class. i agree, we should be beyond this but sadly we are so not in america. i am sure WIS is a good place but i was wondering about other schools. and yes, i taught at st. patrick's and i saw first hand how they treated the Black children there but that's for another post.[/quote]

Really? That makes me sad. I mean that, for the children's sake.[/quote]

DC went to a Big 3 private and, not that I counted then, but just looking at an old class picture on the wall here I see that, in a class of 20, there were 3 AA children, 3 South Asian children ( India, Pakistan, Iran, Afghan), 2 Asian children ( Japanese or Chinese American), 2 Middle Eastern children, 2 kids with some Pacific Islander heritage, and the rest white kids, some of whom are Jewish, Irish, English, Sweedish, German, Russian, and Slavic descent.

The class looks like a group any child could fit into. I am not clear on how , if trying to make the class truly diverse, the AD could have any more than 2-3 AA children in a class, as to do so would exclude other URM. AA are 11% of US pop, correct. So, in a class of 20 kids, thats about 2 kids, right ?

The things that make a child not do well in a school ( private or public) are level of academic challenge or style of teaching is poor fit for the DC ,or DC is dissruptive due to poor impulse control, immaturity ( and plain old fashioned bad parenting).[b] In my expereince, the kids who have problems in these areas are of all races, levels of HHI, and ethnicities. It important to have trust in teachers and admin if/when constructive feedback is given about negative behavior. Actually, I think its a great service teachers and the school provides [/b]and they are not paid enough , imho, for what they often have to do which is find very nice, but concrete ways of saying, "look your DC is a brat, he/she can't get along withhis peers, needs to shape up"

In choosing a school, a parent chooses to join a community , the standards of which are set by both the teachers, the admin, the parents , and what is the long standing culture of the school. As a white person and parent, I made it a point to just listen and observe my first year, not wanting to step out of the bounds of the culture of the school until I was aware of what those expectations were. I think it behooves anyone to take that approach whether it is at DC's school or a new job. In other words, I did not expect the school to conform to me, and aside from a LD, I would not expect the school to bend expectations for my DC.

In this context, I don't see how , as OP said, a school should have a special system in place for how to treat  "black children" well . I'd ask, haven't we moved beyond that ? If not, I think[i] tha[/i]t is sad. A school should treat all children well, be welcoming of all, and part of that is holding everyone to same standard, and assuming good will on part of everyone.

I think its the assuming of good will part that some people have a problem with and [b]that[/b] is sad.[/quote]

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