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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can speak from the perspective of the child. My mother had me when she was 44 and then had my brother 18 months later. My dad was almost 50 when I was born.  I had a wonderful childhood, and didn't realize until I was much older when my parents didn't do (like running around outside playing with us). My parents at that point were very comfortable financially - so we traveled a lot, went to the theatre, concerts, museums.  They had perspective which only comes from age. If I could choose, I would pick older parents every time.[/quote]

My parents were the exact same ages as yours.  My mother was 20 with her first kid and 44 with her last (me).  They were so, so much better parents to me than to my older siblings -- they had more experience, money, and perspective.

Pros (definitely not exhaustive): My parents were relatively relaxed, financially comfortable, and have been lucky so far to continue to enjoy near-perfect health (mom is 75 and dad is 79).  Cons: I had serious fears of them dying all through my childhood (honestly I still worry a lot), and they got called Grandma/Grandpa and were annoyed.  Obviously they will be more dependent on me at an earlier stage in MY life, but I know that can happen even with young parents.

Bottom line is -- as PP said, I would choose older parents every time.  If you're worried about having a kid at an older age, keep this in mind.[/quote]

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