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[quote=Anonymous]Man here.

My wife said something similar to this to me years ago. We married young and wanted a huge family. The ambitious 20 year old that I was, I wanted 5 kids. She talked me down to two and said we'd see what happened from there. Eight years passed of non-stop "trying to conceive" and no kids. We saw a few doctors, all of whom confirmed that she couldn't have kids.

She started blaming herself for denying me the thing that I wanted so badly. She got really depressed about it. I won't lie and say that I wasn't really hurt at the idea of not having children. I was the nice guy growing up who everyone said would make a great husband and father one day. When all of my "never having kids" friends started dropping babies, I felt slighted.

More than anything else, however, I always wanted someone to share my life with. My wife was my best friend and it seemed like she had a manual for what made me tick. She knew me better than I knew myself and the idea of leaving that just for someone who could give me a child was crazy. I wanted kids with her, but if i couldn't have the kids then at least I could have her.

If your husband loves you, then don't give that up. Obviously you love him, else you wouldn't be considering this. Just talk it out. It will take time, and maybe you should consider counseling, but don't give up what you have. [/quote]

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