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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]T[quote]he only required activity is violin, which she can quit when she's 16. I'm thinking of asking her to quit ballet, but she likes it best of all her activities.[/quote] I'm wondering if ballet's bad for her body image, though, with the emphasis on thin-ness, instead of athletic-ness. She's quite good at tennis, though, so it would make more sense for her to stick with that. She loves theater, so does that as well. Most of her MS friends do at least this many activities and more. [/quote]

I'd give her a little more freedom than that. Instead, tell her that you want her doing one thing for her body and one for her mind outside of school that's enjoyable. I think theatre could count as mind OR body, but violin would count as mind. So she should quit tennis, theatre OR ballet.

It's totally normal for a kid who's reached a certain physiological maturity to spend an hour getting ready. Most grown women would spend that much time getting ready to go out on a date, out with girlfriends, etc., and school is her main place for socializing. I know you said that you never comment negatively on other people's appearances, but do you comment negatively on your own? Do you comment positively on how others treat people? Don't just be inactive on this, be PROactive. [/quote]

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