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[quote=Anonymous]This sounds really hard to deal with, OP.  I am a lefty and do think about disaster preparedness somewhat, my family has picked places we would meet up in the event of a dirty bomb or something like that going off in DC and we had to evacuate, but this sounds like something different--consuming paranoia combined with anger towards others and defensiveness (since you said he doesn't respect others' views but says it's his views that aren't being respected.)

I don't have first-hand experience with this kind of change in spousal personality (yet!  knock on wood!) but the above suggestions about seeing if there is any medical reason for it seem like a good idea.  Any dramatic change in personality could indicate something medical, if the advice columnists I read are to be believed.

If you rule that out or he won't see a doctor, I wonder if you could talk about it in a calm moment and try to come to agreement that talking about your different viewpoints on this is becoming divisive, and basically agree not to talk about it.  Maybe agree he won't watch Fox News or whatever in front of you if you don't watch X in front of him.  You could have some sort of agreed-upon "safe word" meaning that the conversation is getting too political and it needs to end.  And try to re-connect about things you still do have in common, preferably non-media-based things like walking the dog or whatever.  If he's really far gone he might not agree, but maybe it's worth a try.  [/quote]

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