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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you for taking your time to help me and the others who read this.

I forgive him in the sense that it no longer causes me pain due to the affair. The pain I feel is in myself and my inadequacies in myself. They have come to the forefront because of the situation I am in. I am positive in that I will be ok however walking away from what was my life is oh so hard. I cannot accept another relationship from this same man. If the problems we had before discovering this were it I might have been able to stay. This affair on top of all of his other problems is too much to bear. I'm like a dying butterfly, slowly flapping its wings to keep going. Only until I leave will I be able to get the air I need to survive.[/quote]

Time to move on.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  You are a great mom and wife.  Regardless of who you are, he had no place to cheat.  This is not your fault.  This is 100% his fault.  Time to move on without him.  My dad cheated on my mom.  She said the same thing you did.  Long story short, she has a great boyfriend now and is very happy.  The initial pain is hard, but you can get on it to have a far better life.  Why keep suffering?[/quote]

I certainly don't judge anyone for leaving after infidelity, but the once a cheater always a cheater is not always true. There are many people who have affairs one time. Philandering, sex addiction, etc. is different.

It's great that your mom moved on, but her story is not everyone's story.  After my husband had an affair, he felt compelled to open up and he told his mom, who revealed my DH's dad had an affair when the kids were young. She had divorce papers drawn up but never filed them, and they have an awesome marriage. My MIL and FIL are people I deeply respect. He made a mistake and he made it right. Her experience really helped us. Every marriage is different. Some people will divorce, some people will stay and limp along in miserable marriages, and some will have stronger marriages. 
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