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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
This is actually kind of interesting to me at the moment.

My husband and I both has opposite-sex friends, and it's never been something I've given much thought to. We recently made new friends though, and due to our schedules, I'm hanging out more with the man than the woman (we're both home with our kids after school gets out) and for some reason it feels kind of awkward. Part of it is that I think I have more in common with the husband than the wife, and if I'm honest, I'm probably a little attracted to him (although I'm happily married and would never act on it). I feel like there are some unspoken rules I should be abiding by in this situation, but I'm not really sure what they are. I've definitely felt the need to make sure everything is on the straight-and-narrow -- copying his wife on texts to make plans, etc. It's weird.

Op here. This is the kind of thing I'm talking about. Interesting. Do you feel like he's being cautious as well?[/quote]

Yeah, I kind of feel like we're all doing this little dance around it - he, his wife, me... not so much my husband, because he just assumes the best in people and probably wouldn't raise any concerns even if he had them, although the stuff I do to make sure everything is "above-board" is for his benefit as well as everyone else. So, I might want to invite FH (friend husband) to do something with me and the kids, but I make sure to do the initial inviting in front of FW (friend wife). When it gets to a point where FH and I have been spending a lot of time together, he'll reach out to plan something the my husband, and/or I'll think of some reason to make plans with his wife.

I'm hoping the whole thing will get less strange as we all get to know each other better. We're both new to the area, have kids the same age, and get along really well. That's been hard for us to find, so I really want our friendship to continue - but if things get too weird, yes, I'd pull away. I tend to send out the opposite of flirtatious vibes to guys, so I'm probably way over thinking this in the first place. [/quote]

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