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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'll bet that married women are more likely to regard other guys as "just friends" and interact with them in that frame of mind while married men are less likely. Just because, in general, women are happier to regard men as friends than vice versa.

To me, an interesting corollary of this dynamic would be to determine whether women are more likely to become involved in affairs that "just happen" than men are. [/quote]

I'm a woman. I don't understand what you mean by "just happens"? Please explain.[/quote]

Often when a cheating spouse has an affair, the cheated upon spouse will hear something like, "I didn't mean to have an affair, it just happened." So, I'm wondering if affairs sneak up on women more frequently than men. And, if so, whether affairs aren't so sneaky for men because they kind of wanted to have sex with their female friends the entire time. [/quote]

I don't believe affairs just happen. If you have chemistry, you both know it. You then need to stay away from each other or minimize contact. Saying it " just happened" is a cop out.[/quote]

I tend to agree. But, I also think people are less than honest with themselves in this situation. So, if they're with the other person in reality because that person gives them a shot of sex-charged dopamine, they'll want to continue it but their brain will try to rationalize it into something more acceptable. My suspicion (and no I can't prove it) is that the ladies will be more susceptible to such rationalizations being successful because they're more likely to be able to convince themselves that the other man is a non-sexual friend. Because men are more likely to regard women as potential sex partners in the first place, the "just friends" rationalization is less likely to take hold.

(Now, I'm not saying that men are less likely to have affairs -- I'm saying that men are less likely to enter into affairs having convinced themselves that anything accidental took place.) [/quote]

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