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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is actually kind of interesting to me at the moment.

My husband and I both has opposite-sex friends, and it's never been something I've given much thought to. We recently made new friends though, and due to our schedules, I'm hanging out more with the man than the woman (we're both home with our kids after school gets out) and for some reason it feels kind of awkward. Part of it is that I think I have more in common with the husband than the wife, and if I'm honest, I'm probably a little attracted to him (although I'm happily married and would never act on it). I feel like there are some unspoken rules I should be abiding by in this situation, but I'm not really sure what they are. I've definitely felt the need to make sure everything is on the straight-and-narrow -- copying his wife on texts to make plans, etc. It's weird.[/quote]

Good on you for noticing and feeling awkward and to make sure everything is above board by copying his spouse. To the extent possible, I'd say just avoid being alone with the other guy in the first place. A marriage is so much more important than a random friendship. Sure, the chances may be slim that anything untoward would happen, but why open the can of worms even a little bit?

Let's call the benefit of the friendship worth 100. Let's call the cost of an affair worth -1,000,000. If there is a 1% chance of an affair, you're looking at benefit of 100 versus a cost of .01*1M = -10,000. Obviously my numbers are arbitrary, but you get the point. [/quote]

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