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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thank you for taking your time to help me and the others who read this.

I forgive him in the sense that it no longer causes me pain due to the affair. The pain I feel is in myself and my inadequacies in myself. They have come to the forefront because of the situation I am in. I am positive in that I will be ok however walking away from what was my life is oh so hard. I cannot accept another relationship from this same man. If the problems we had before discovering this were it I might have been able to stay. This affair on top of all of his other problems is too much to bear. I'm like a dying butterfly, slowly flapping its wings to keep going. Only until I leave will I be able to get the air I need to survive.[/quote]

OP, I hate to read that you have turned the negative feelings you feel toward yourself.  It's so not fair - you did not deserve this.

Your last line about needing air to survive really struck me.  You know what you need.  Give yourself what you need now, with no regrets or apologies.  You need space from this man, you need air to catch your breath and survive.  Separate from him as soon as you can and give yourself that air.  Try not to worry too much about what is going to be your reality a year from now or 5 years from now.  Just give yourself what you need to survive now.

If you're in the DC area, I highly recommend the Women's Center in Vienna for support through this transition.

Good luck to you, OP.  Please do not wait to give yourself what you need.[/quote]

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