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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, thanks for the supportive comments. I have not been able to tell DH what happened. 
I don't ever remember my parents saying anything like that to us.
[b]Heck, they would whack us, yell, scream, call us fools, but never the "h" word. 
I feel like I have done worse than they ever did. [/b]
DS knows that I would give my life for him. He has seen me react in emergencies like a mad woman. Once when he was stuck in the car, and another time when he took a bad fall. I suspect that this is lingering in his head and he is wondering if it is true. One good thing is that I don't think that he equates hate with no love. [/quote]

OP, you are totally being too hard on yourself.  I lived in a household with yelling, screaming and hitting and I've been through therapy twice - once as a young adult and now again as a parent - to deal with the repercussions of that upbringing.  If you are not doing any of these things, your son will get over this.  Just be honest, apologize, and reassure him that you could never "hate" HIM, but that you can (and sometimes do) "hate" his behavior.  Kids are smart enough to get the difference.  We can't be perfect for our kids all the time and if we try to be, we are setting ourselves up to fail and our kids up for a standard they cannot meet either.[/quote]

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