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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I forgot to add that once you're on that first date within a week, he needs to immediately (within a week or so) start to wrap things up with any other women he's chatting with to make room to focus on you. He should be trying to see you as soon as you're free again. No waiting for the weekend to do 1xweek dates. [/quote]

This is helpful. Thank you!

We have known each other for 6 months where I was dating multiple guys until I became exclusive with him late March.

I don’t feel like this is heading in the direction I’d like. [/quote]

So, I was in this exact situation but on the other side.

I dated a great guy for about 6 months. I really liked him, but his demands on my time were high. He also wanted to talk 2 hours a day on the phone, in addition to seeing each other quite a bit, texting every day, etc.

I started withdrawing/slow fading because it was all too much for me. So much of my energy went into these phone conversations that I had none left to actually fuel the relationship. I started feeling resentful, stopped going on dated with him, etc. Which, of course, made him anxious and clingier and want more from me. Eventually I snapped when he called me when I really didn’t want to talk and ended things.

In retrospect I wish we had just talked about it, maybe cooled things off, stopped talking every day, etc. But I think we were both too scared of how the other person would react. I was worried if I asked for more space and distance, he would start seeing others and leave. I did really like the guy, but I can’t keep up with all those phone conversations.

So just talk to him! Ask him what’s going on. Don’t play games. 
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