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[quote=Anonymous]At age 8 when he started, it was to have fun. At age 16, it was still to have fun. That was 100% the only goal. We made it clear to him that we only wanted him to play if it was fun. He wanted more than rec could offer with players who were all in and he begged so we signed up at 8.  We immediately met families who had grand plans for their kids. We had family friends who lectured me that we weren’t making the right decisions by not chasing the most elite teams. Their daughter’s soccer was the center of their universe, switching teams year after year and traveling by plane year round. She is a great player but she is playing D3 (by choice). We took the lesser path and even let DS take a break to pursue baseball for a time before returning. He will also play D3. Might he have had more opportunities if we had pushed or chased badges, I suppose. But college soccer was never our intention. It’s just what he decided to pursue once he hit sophomore year. There is no money in college soccer for those chasing scholarships unless you play D1. The vast majority of kids aren’t going to end up there. You are better off to invest the money in a 529 if a scholarship is the main goal. DS’s friend played for DCU academy and is amazingly talented. While he will play D1 and is excited, he did not have the college coaches beating a path to his door as he expected and he did not get any traction with the D1 schools he really wanted. He has another friend who only wanted D1 and a scholarship and ended up with no offers. He finally settled for a D3 but he was incredibly limited in options by refusing to see the writing on the wall. This is not to say there’s anything wrong with D3. We know tons of talented players who chose it. And DS feels lucky to play D3. But my point is many parents are unrealistic. My advice is to just let things play out naturally. Keep reevaluating. And if you have a son, only take recruiting advice from those with boys. Girls soccer and boys soccer are completely different in terms of timelines, slots and odds. [/quote]

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