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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean, haven’t you ever been mean (intentionally or otherwise)? I try to give everyone grace- but especially kids, they are learning. Doesn’t mean my kid should be friends with someone who treats them poorly, but I don’t need to hold a grudge either[/quote]

Of course everyone has been mean at some point or another, but some kids engage in kinds of meanness I would never do. Like the weird triangulation situation described above where two girls just used another to workout their own differences and then ganged up on her. I can honestly say I have never in my life engaged in behavior like that and wouldn't, nor would my kid, I don't even understand how that happens.

With stuff like that, though, I[b] honestly wind up holding the grudge against the parents, not the kids[/b]. I assume the parents are either checked out and not really invested in their kids, leading them to Lord of the Flies their way through elementary, or they are modeling similar dynamics and think it's fine.[/quote]

I don't think this is fair.

Honestly, the situation that OP describes in kids this age, particularly girls, is so common it's almost universal. I'm 48 and I can remember a similar situation that happened to me in elementary school. I have long since gotten over it and was actually very good friends throughout high school with one of the girls involved.

OP, you have to step back. Guide your own kid but realize that this stuff happens and at some point, your own DD may be a mean girl to someone else. They are all learning. [/quote]

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