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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, the standards are very low. It's good you recognize it. Never let those low standards allow you to lower your own standards.

Also it's good to be aware of exactly how HIGH the standards for your wife are. Like as you are getting pats on the back for knowing how to make a bottle, your wife is over there being judged for literally every aspect of parenting even the crap she could not possibly control even if she tried.

If you understand this dynamic, it will save you a lot of marital strain. You can start now by telling her, tonight, how impressed you are with what it took for her to have this baby and what a great mom she's already shaping up to be. Like pay forward those compliments you received for putting together a single bottle (and that you will receive for simply being seen in public with your child, buying food at the grocery store, simply knowing your child's teacher's names, etc.) and give them to your wife who will NEVER get a compliment for any of that stuff and will instead be criticized for doing it wrong no matter how she does it.[/quote]

This is really good advice. My husband is an equal parent. When he goes out with all three kids (1, 4, and 6) people will BUY HIM COFFEE because "he has his hands full" and he's "such a great dad!" This has happened several times. He is literally showered with compliments any time he steps a foot out the door.

Meanwhile, the last time I was out with all three by myself, some frowny boomer came up to me and said "Your baby needs a hat." I have literally never had a stranger compliment my parenting. [/quote]

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