Reply to Am I Overreacting?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Am I Overreacting?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he has no history of abusing you I think you are overreacting.   Men are wired to be a little violent.   Restraining you on one occasion if never repeated is really not such a big deal.   You can all scream as much as you like but from a male perspective, I think you need to cool it.[/quote]

This is total bullshit.  It doesn't matter how men are wired (and saying you're wired that way is just another bullshit excuse), hitting other people (or shoving or pushing or kicking or holding down while they scream and try to get away) is a crime which means that society does not see this behavior as acceptable.  There is no need for an adult to ever "restrain" another adult unless they are preventing that person from hurting someone.  Further, that is not what happened here: he pushed her into a room, shoved her down, and held her on the bed.  That's abusive, and it doesn't matter that our fathers/brothers/uncles do it or that it happens all the time on TV, it's not acceptable.

I am a woman who grew up in an abusive family and when I get angry I scream and yell and have no doubt that I am capable of violence, since I am "wired" that way from what I learned in my family.  The difference between me and you is that I don't use that as a justification for abuse, I use that as a reason to do whatever it is I need to do to not repeat that cycle in my own family.  I don't hit my child and I don't shove or hit my spouse.  How much rage I feel inside is my own problem, not something to justify abusing other people.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics