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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter is struggling with situational depression. She’s very sad and sometimes has passive suicidal thoughts, and the reason feels “small,” which makes her feel guilty for feeling this way. She’s had many real losses in life already and has done grief support groups, so she keeps comparing herself to people going through objectively devastating things and feels ashamed that she’s this [b]depressed over being single and wanting a partner[/b] so badly. She also feels guilty because she knows there are people grieving loved ones who desperately wanted to live, while she sometimes feels the opposite.

She’s still functioning and not in immediate danger, and says she would never do anything, but I’m still worried because she feels very hopeless and lonely underneath it all.

This doesn’t really feel like a meds situation so much as a loneliness/situational issue. I’d really appreciate any books, podcasts, support groups, online & in person resources, etc. that helped you or someone you know with loneliness, hopelessness around relationships, or situational depression.
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Sure. This is not uncommon.

What she needs to do is to give herself a list of to-dos and a new routine  to make herself healthy, fit, skilled, interesting, good dresser etc.

-  Begin with joining a gym and do exercises for flexibility and building muscles.  Start walking.
- Change her diet so that it is full of good quality protein, while grain carbs, organic fruits and veggies, probiotics, seeds and nuts, healthy fats.  No processed or junk food.  Stop all added sugar and caffeine. 
- Stop drinking, vaping, drugs
-  Fix her sleep cycle 
-  Eat a lot of fiber and drink lots of alkaline water. .
-  Make her skin, hair, scalp healthy. 
- Get her teeth fixed.  Get her eyes checked. 
-  Do yoga and breathing exercises.

- Build adulting skills. Start with learning how to cook proper meals.  
- Learn to take care of laundry, cleaning your home and car, having a routine
- Learn how to host.

- Improve your resume, linkedIn profile, interview skills.  Gain some new professional certifications etc.  Apply for jobs, opportunities.

- She should also start organizing meet-ups tied with some activity. 
- She should get in touch with friends, school mates, work friends etc to do something that people will like to do...a new movie together, a hike together, a new museum opening, concert etc.

- Once her skin is clear, hair is health, teeth and eyes are looking great, house is clean, career is on track, she has a ton of friends through meetups - she should get a makeover.

- Once she is looking good, dresses well, is fit, her life is on track, she has adulting and career skills, had interesting activities and hobbies, has a busy life -  MEN WILL FLOCK TO HER LIKE FLIES TO MOLASSES. [/quote]

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