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[quote=Anonymous]I am unsure if this is true or not, I think people's desires around the sex of their kids is complex. For instance I (woman) kind of hoped for a boy because I had this idea that it's sometimes easier to be the parent who is not the same gender as your child, just anecdotally this seems true (girls often seem to fight with their moms and boys with their dads). But then I had a girl and was immediately thrilled and love having a girl and it feels like this is what I always wanted. I think I was probably going to love being a mom no matter what I had but it's easy to overthink before you know.

At the same time, if people do prefer having girls, I also notice this weird trend among some families where they are determined for their girls to behave as much like boys of prior generations as possible. I have heard many parents discourage their girls from liking pink or ballet or anything stereotypically feminine. I see an emphasis on sports and STEM for girls that isn't mirrored with boys -- people seem fine if a boy isn't sporty or seems more humanities interested, but if a girl isn't sporty or prefers reading to math, people sometimes view it as a problem to be fixed, like she must be expressing misogynist programming and those can't be her actual preferences.

So if there is a general preference towards girls, which I'm not sure there is, I also think there is a perverse trend of not wanting those girls to be too feminine. So like the ideal child is a girl who loves soccer and science, her favorite color is green, and she rejects princesses or makeup or anything deemed overly feminine.[/quote]

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