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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The high school coaches my kids have been involved with communicate through apps and texts. And they don’t want parent involvement. I don’t know what they’d do with a kid who didn’t have a phone.

And curious how your kids make plans with friends if they don’t have a phone in high school. [/quote]

Yeah, that is not appropriate. I don't care if an adult reaches out to my kid but I need to be on the communication. It is a basic safety feature. I won't reply, my kid is the one who needs to be communicating but he should not be communicating with an adult solo. That is a huge red flag. 
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By high school your kid will be on things like remind, team snap, canvas, etc.  All sorts of adults (coaches, teachers. EC leaders)  will message them on these platforms and you will have nothing to do with it, which is normal and developmentally appropriate.  They will not be texting your kids personal cell number but your kid would likely need some way to see and respond to all these messages in the various parts of their life much like you might need to see messages for your life.  They will be treated like independent human beings in high school.[/quote]

I have my kids logins and check.  You should too. Unless they work in the mines or shirt factory,  they're still children. [/quote]

An alternative approach is to slowly give your child more and more independence starting in middle school and have open conversations with them about how to handle interactions with adults and red flags.  Develop a close relationship with them where they come to you for advice and you coach them through how to handle things on their own.

But also you could just read all their communication until they go to college.  That’s another way.[/quote]

As long as I’m paying for the phone I get passwords and I get to read what they’re saying and what they’re doing. If they don’t like it they can buy their own cell phone. [/quote]

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