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Reply to "Tired of being the bigger person, always extending the invitation, checking in etc. I want to be selfish. "
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For most of my life I’ve been a terrible people-pleaser, and it works! People are pleased! But it comes at the expense of my never being obtrusive, difficult, insistent, etc. I am always listening, accommodating, inviting, planning, reaching out, checking in, making sure everyone else is okay. And I’m really tired of it. What happens if I just…stop? Has anyone else evolved in this way? I’ve just turned 40 and feel like that has something to do with this change of heart. [/quote] There are 2 ways to look at this. For some people, age 40 is the age where you stop caring and that's the reason you stop being a people pleaser. For others, they try to stop because they are tired of people pleasing, but then they realize that the reason they became a pleaser in the first place was because they thrive on external validation. Which are you? In either case, absolutely nothing happens if you stop. Try it out and see for yourself.[/quote]
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