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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My teen is like this. Graduating this year. No proms, no homecomings, nada. DS seemed to be well-liked at school, but did not have a primary friend group. We try not to project as DS seems reasonably happy, but it keeps me up at night that he missed out on all the typical teen activities and I wonder where I went wrong in guiding him. I know other boys do this stuff because I hear about it from my friends, see photos on Instagram that hit my algorithm and see it with my own eyes when I am at school from time to time. Not gonna lie, it has been a very tough time. Parents who have not been through it really do not understand how hard it really is. Teaches you not to take anything for granted as this was not my own experience growing up and was not an issue with my older child.  Hurts.[/quote]

But who is hurting? My DS1 was fairly similar to this, and like your son didn't seem unhappy in high school, though he had very little social life. He's 28 now. It took him a while to find his people in college but eventually he fell in with a lovely group that he is still close to/vacations with, he's had a few long-ish romantic relationships, and he even keeps in touch with and occasionally sees some of the people he was friendly with in high school. (In fact, he met his current GF, who I hope might become his wife some day, at a meet-up with some high school friends; she is a friend of one of them.) I don't think he perceives himself as having had a "tough time" in high school, and I don't think he feels like he missed out on anything important.

It will be ok. People don't need to go to high school dances/proms/games/parties to have a good high school experience or to be happy. They really don't.[/quote]

Sorry, me again. I meant to add: Since DS1 didn't have a lot of social activities going on in high school, I made it a point to do things with him more than I would have expected to with a teenager. On weekends, we often went to a museum or walked to get ice cream or coffee, went to the movies or watched a TV series, and we even took a few weekend trips, just the two of us. I tried to make it seem like this was natural and not out of the ordinary or anything to feel weird about. If he didn't want to go, he didn't, but honestly he seemed to like spending time with DH and me. (He still does, even though he has an active social life now.) [/quote]

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