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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Last year was very difficult. We moved out of state and I handled the stress and setbacks horribly. A lot of mom rage directed at my 3 sons - 13, 11 and 9. Our rental was a dump, they hated their new schools, I took my guilt out on them instead of just being patient with the adjustment. Well, we survived, moved into a beautiful home and I feel like garbage reflecting on what a moody, abusive JERK I was. Short tempered, vicious, tearful. It wasn’t all bad but a highlight reel of my “greatest hits” keeps looping. I apologized and said, I’m so sorry for the last year. You are all amazing. And I’m making an effort to not be so reactive. Can anyone share how they’ve repaired after a bad patch? Before our move I was a typical mom with grouchy times (overall loving) but this year was harsh.[/quote]

"A word is dead when it is said, some say.
I say it just begins to live that day."
Emily Dickinson

Children remember vicious comments and you can apologize until Hell freezes over but they don't forget.
What you did was terrible even if everything been their fault  your behavior is inexcusable.  I know from m whereof I speak because I had a parent like you. Those hateful, hate-filled mean words stay with a child forever.

Other posters will give you a pass because life was hard.  Well, it is was also very hard for your children and you were the only person they had to love and to help them through the hard times and you failed 
 miserably.[/quote]

I had/have a verbally abusive father who has raging outbursts. It has traumatized me a lot, but I could move on if my dad a) acknowledged his behavior is completely unacceptable; b) engaged in consistent therapy and/or anger management beyond a one-off session; c) stopped making jokes about the incidents in an attempt to downplay what happened; d) sincerely and fully apologized to me with no “but” or suggestion that I’m overreacting; and e) most importantly, actually stopped the abusive outbursts.

If OP can do the above, I am confident her kids can recover from a bad year. But it’s a lot of work on OP’s part. [/quote]

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