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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Travel U11 boys for next year. DS has played for this club for 3 years. Tryouts for next year were last week. Offers started going out for top teams last Friday and by practice on Thursday night, everyone on our current team had gotten their offers. We have heard nothing. I spoke with our current coach at the end of practice and he said he was told DS was getting an offer for X team and said those offers had already gone out. He said he’d reach out to upper management and see what was going on.

That night, DH sent an (very polite) email to the boys head coach, the age group head coach,  and our current coach. We have heard nothing. Not even an acknowledgement that they got the email. We texted our current coach. Nothing. Called the club office and left a message this morning.

We have a game tomorrow. What do we do/say? Do we even go??

At this point, I don’t even care if they’ve cut him. I just want someone to have the balls to tell us!! [/quote]

[b]Ok, I guess I will be that person to say it.

This was ALOT. Emails, texts and calling the main line.[/b] If this was your communication style throughout this process I imagine you have been meddling throughout and it may be less about the kid and more about you and your DH.

Another club did have the audacity to tell the parents face to face, “your son is welcome back but you are not.” I prefer that directness but most people are. It emotionally prepared to handle that level of rejection in a mature manner. They take their ball and cash to another club instead of being reflective of their actions. I am pretty sure I am going to be shouted down for “keeping it real” with this post.

While I don’t approve how they handled it, I had a completely different reaction reading your message and thought that you and your DH were completely over the top agro (although probably done with a smile and politely).

Somebody else will probably take your money but if you are truly open to feedback, you might want to look at your approach for the sake of giving your son the best opportunities possible.[/quote]

NP.  There are a lot of people on DCUM who don't like to read.  Also gutless people who avoid responsibility.  Busy, prepared parents usually need to get their logistics in order and don't have time for evasion and disorganization.

I am routinely asking kid extracurricular people for info weeks to months before they deign to get planning and give it to me.  My kids are a bit frustrated about being asked to get information from adults "too early".

What I see is that I'm spending my time, vacation benefits, taking off work sometimes to volunteer, shaping costly vacation and summer camp decisions around their schedules, and these people think they can just cobble everything together in 2-3 weeks.

Last year I had to drive 16 hours and create a mini-vacation in Wisconsin because my kid's EC team decide to go to an event there after I'd already registered my kid in a summer camp.  I had to pick him up and get him to the event separate from the team.  The event organizers published the wrong dates for the event 3 times on social media.  We weren't even sure it would be held until a few weeks before.  Another typical one:  our high school's music director is ADHD and always publishes at least one incorrect concert date a year.

This kind of logistics sloppiness is pretty typical. And parents need to know. I don't think it's unreasonable to ask multiple people and multiple times.[/quote]

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